This message is for all of you who are not bloggers and don’t feel the need to pretend.
Perception is so important these days. The things you post and what you say are supposed to fill some purpose, but I’m here to tell you it doesn’t.
For example, I had a conversation with myself the other day about something I saw while scrolling Instagram.
Blogger: "Your face cream will work better if you apply it from left to right."
Me: “Oh, I bet that's why my face cream doesn't moisturize my skin well... of course that’s it.”
The nuance of that—how the implication of a stranger’s post made me question my own beauty routine—got me thinking about my own social media presence. For a long time, I thought what I shared on Instagram needed to be successful; it needed likes. This was until I caught myself reverse engineering my IG success by trying to live my life in a way that was good for content. I wanted to do what I thought everyone else was doing.
I encourage us all, me included, to be more authentic. I don’t mean we shouldn’t share the things that make us happy or life hacks that have worked for us in the past. I suggest that, before we post anything, we ask ourselves why we’re sharing. What’s your intention? Are you trying to prove something? Are you posting for yourself?
In asking myself these questions, I’ve been able to stay present and have kept from falling into the social media ego trap.
I don’t know all of the answers and that’s ok. I don’t have to pretend on Instagram and, hopefully, never will again.