I know that self-care and self-love are all that anyone talks about these days. I also know that self-love means something different to each person. To that end, I ask you: are we really loving ourselves?
People think that caring about ourselves means getting a massage or making time for a bubble bath. Perhaps to you, self-love means nourishing yourself with clean foods. While all of these rituals fall under the ways we respect our bodies, actual self-love goes much deeper.
First and foremost, we need to recognize that loving ourselves is a journey and a practice we commit to daily. There’s no end goal, no finish line. The work never stops.
If you’re still confused about what all of this means and how you can start on the path yourself, know that I was there, too. I found my way by putting together a list. It worked for me and I hope it will do the same for you. Every person is different and how we care about ourselves is something deeply personal, but I hope my journey serves a starting point to launch your own.
- Do more of what makes you happy—it will do wonders for the relationship you have with yourself.
- Outline your personal policies—your boundaries—and keep the list handy in case you need to refer back to them
- Meditate, pray or speak with yourself, gently. I truly believe that more than just being part of a ritual, this is a way to channel our energy in a single positive direction. This is one you can always turn to when moments get stressful. Think deep and have a chat with yourself.
- Thin first about self-care and self-love will follow. For me, self-care was more mental than physical. I paid attention to my thoughts and sat with myself, observing and being present. In channeling my inner self, I was already doing the work of self-love.